Mini Sermons

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Make a Difference

Sometimes life is better than others.  Sometimes life for one is better than for another.  Perspective plays a big role in this but also the people you surround yourself with make a huge difference.  I was contemplating something my kids said yesterday…..

Saturday morning:  house full of kids and a mom, all of which had very little sleep.  It could have made for a very ugly thing.  The kids have fun on their agenda; mom has the tornado stricken house on hers.  I start sounding like my mom all of a sudden… “We are not going anywhere until this house is clean” totally expecting to be met with resistance.  They all get up and start cleaning?  Ok go with it….

I walk into the kitchen; son and daughter are in the extremely small kitchen at the sink doing dishes… mom is perplexed but happy.  Daughter says “look, at dads we can’t get along while doing the dishes, but here we work together”.   I didn’t think to ask her why that was but I should have.

All day all I pondered why this happens… all the time… everywhere…  We can get along with certain people some of the time, depending on our situation or surroundings….

Like it or not we are affected by the people we give our time to, if they are negative we become negative. If they are positive we tend to be more positive.  The old phrase “shit rolls down hill” really does apply to every day of our lives, but it doesn’t have to be shit…. We alone can change the atmosphere if we are not willing to let others moods and opinions affect us.  “It is harder to bring someone up than to pull them down” is another phrase that comes to mind but notice it doesn’t say it is impossible… just harder…

Make it your goal today to make someone in your life happier, you never know what their real struggle is. Your smile and kind words could make a difference.

Sunday, October 23, 2011

Time Heals... or is it LOVE

My oldest son is very philosophical and a couple days ago we were talking about feeling loved…. He said something that had caused me to contemplate… He said that he needed to feel loved by people outside of the expected circle… family…  He told me of course that my love was important but that others who were not bound to him by blood made a bigger impact when they showed unconditional love.  It is so true… I know that I am loved by my mom and dad, sister, brother, kids…. But those who don’t HAVE to love me and do anyway remind me that I am worthy of love….  I was reading over some of my old writings and this one stuck out today… I hope it reminds you to love others…..

Written Dec 2010
They say time heals… whoever THEY are.  They say a lot of things you know and they are usually right (half the time anyway).  We all have a 50/50 chance of being right.  Who knows which 50 is the right 50? 

I don’t think it is time that heals, I think it is time that dulls the pain makes us forget somehow just how bad things were.  By forgetting we regain some hope for the future.  It is my opinion that LOVE heals.  Love covers a multitude of sins; love gives us what we need to love ourselves.  The love that I refer to is the unconditional kind.  The love that is there no matter what, that overlooks our mistakes in hopes that we will learn from them.  Love that tells us we are all that matters; that we are worth something.  This love is the love that God has for us and that should be enough…and many times it is.  But God made us relational creatures.  We want relationship with real flesh and blood…these relationships should give us a small view of the love our God has for us.   I have found that love in the flesh and it is very healing.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 
If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don't love, I've gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I'm bankrupt without love. 
   Love never gives up. 
   Love cares more for others than for self. 
   Love doesn't want what it doesn't have. 
   Love doesn't strut, 
   Doesn't have a swelled head, 
   Doesn't force itself on others, 
   Isn't always "me first," 
   Doesn't fly off the handle, 
   Doesn't keep score of the sins of others, 
   Doesn't revel when others grovel, 
   Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, 
   Puts up with anything, 
   Trusts God always, 
   Always looks for the best, 
   Never looks back, 
   But keeps going to the end.
   Love never dies.


Cherish LOVE today my friends….

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

No Problems, Only Solutions

Tuesday morning started out like any other day.  Got up, got the kids ready for school and we head out.  We are standing on the porch getting ready to walk to the car when from the tree falls a large object.  It bounces off the car and lands on the ground.  My car is parked beneath a large oak tree and it is not abnormal to see things fall.  More times than not a squirrel is throwing things at it. This particular morning the thing that fell was big enough to be the squirrel itself.  I am aghast, thinking that the thing that fell is going to get up and run away, that silly squirrel lost its footing…. Nothing moved.  Everyone stood still for what felt like minute.
I am the first to exclaim, “What was that” in a rather loud voice that may have contained explicit language if my children weren’t present.  My oldest son said “didn’t you see th owl fly away?”  and then I knew… it was dead, but what was it.  We all walked slowly over to see the lump on the ground to find a rather large, headless rat!  All four of us had differing reactions to the scene below the tree.
I was appalled, my stomach hurt and I couldn’t even look at it…. I can take many things.  Spiders, snakes, mice, but RATS!  I hate rats… even dead, headless rats.

My youngest started taking pictures of it… most probably to show all his friends at school that morning the coolest thing since sliced bread.

My daughter was mildly grossed out and went to get in the car laughing about how freaked out I was.

My oldest son was laughing at me as well, it didn’t seem to faze him much.  Living in the country for most of his pre-adolescent years and butchering chickens and turkeys must have hardened him to the sight of a headless animal… He said “the circle of life mom” and later on a Facebook post he thanked the owl for making me almost throw up….

Before this morning adventure had taken place I had written an unposted blog about our life view; Pessimists, optimists, and realists of whom we had all three in our group that morning plus one more view that I had not included… indifference.  I decided that the blog I had written was boring.... This example was much more fun… if that’s the right word.

We all have our life view… how we react to situations in life… how we react to life in general… we can see the negative in everything, or we can try to see the positive.  We can see reality or we can choose to ignore it.
  
Working in retail daily and seeing upwards of 500 ppl every day I see all three but it seems that the pessimist is much more vocal about their negative view.  Maybe thinking everyone around them thinks negative too, maybe wanting ppl to feel bad for them or their situation? They are generally unhappy…

 The optimist sees the problem or situation thinks positive.  Usually if you do know about their problems they downplay them and give a positive that has happened or that they expect to happen.  The realist looks at the reality of the situation, sometimes negative, sometimes positive, most of the time they say “it is what it is”.   We all know the indifferent too…. The situation doesn’t exist….or it doesn’t matter.

I like to think of myself as an optimist but I am really more of a realist.  A long time ago I adopted a motto that I saw on a business…. “no problems, only solutions”  of course there are problems in life, like a headless squirrel falling from a tree, but for every problem there is a solution.  Sometimes the solutions are not fun and take time to work out.  I’m reminded of the time I took college algebra… complicated 1 line problems with 2 or 3 page solutions.  Logic and strategy; put them in motion and forget the problem… focus on the solution!!  

My solution for the rat…. Ordering the realist son to take it to the trash so I didn’t have to see it anymore… and hoping the owl didn’t have its sights set on my cats…  Remember… not everyone will like your solution…. The son did not want to take the rat to the trash….The owl would prefer to eat the cats….

As I look around at the many people I encounter during the day I wish I could help some of them see the good in life because life is too short to be unhappy.  We miss so much good because we focus on the bad…… remember my motto “NO problems, ONLY solutions”  

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

If the shoe fits....

I like clichés or old saying and proverbs…  I looked up the meaning to this one because it has been on my mind lately.

Ask.com says…. If it applies, take it to heart.  The only history I could find was from the early 18th century.  It was originally “if the cap fits”… under the influence of the Cinderella story it could also be heard as “If the slipper fits”…

This saying is most often used with a negative connotation but as we see in the Cinderella story it was good for her that the slipper fit.

We often take what people say to heart and many times get angry because we think they are talking directly to us.  Ever been in a church service when you thought the preacher had been stalking you and was laying your whole life out before the congregation?  I have.  Ever been passing by a conversation and know they were talking about you because of something you heard? I have.  Has anyone ever been talking to you about someone else but you were convinced they were using the other person as an example for you to get a point?  I have.  Ever read someone’s Face book post and  could swear they wrote it to you?  I have.
These moments are time to give the phrase “If the shoe fits” some thought.   It is a time to look inward and see if there might be something to what you heard….  The sermon or conversation quite possibly had NOTHING to do with you directly except that it struck some sort of nerve.  It is time explore the idea that it’s not about the other person, it’s about something inside trying to get your attention.  It’s time to decide if there is something you should do about what you felt.

On the other side of this coin; ever got a compliment that you totally disregarded and disagreed with?  These are also times to examine your true self and say thank you “if the shoe fits” instead of debating the subject….
We all have a conscience inside that picks up on the little things and alerts us to become better people, unfortunately we rebel against it and let anger get the best of us.  Every situation, every conversation, every sermon, every blog holds a little truth for each of us… it’s what we decide to do with it that matters. 
The Cinderella story has a lot to offer this subject.  The prince took the shoe around to all the beautiful princesses tried the shoe on for size….Some princesses found that only part of their foot would fit it… sometimes we should take part of what we hear (the truth), make ourselves better and leave the rest…. Some of their feet would be totally engulfed by the shoe….in these times we might have something to feel sorry for or apologize for.   But Cinderella… the shoe fit perfectly and she became a princess … we all can become the  princess we were meant to be and live happily ever after if we just take responsibly, own who we are, and try to be the best person possible….

If the shoe fits…. Wear it

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Faith Filled Rebellion 4

Paul tells us not to let others judge us by their traditions, their expectations
Vs 18-19 tell us to stay connected to God/Jesus and not fall into the trap of false humility or mysticism.
“Do not let anyone who delights in false humility and the worship of angels disqualify you for the prize.  Such a person goes into great detail about what he has seen, and his unspiritual mind puffs him up with idle notions.  He has lost connection with the head, from whom the whole body is supported and held together by its ligaments and sinews, grows as God causes it to grow.”
Here I think it is worthy to mentions the fact that he says “don’t let anyone who delights in false humility or the worship of angels disqualify you”.  The fact that he puts someone with false humility and angel worshipers in the same category suggest they both suffer from idolatry.   The NASB uses the term Self Abasement in place of false humility. In psychology, abasement is associated with shame (rather than guilt) and it is said to involve the reduction of the subject's self-esteem.  I have found much of my Christian life has been kept in check by shame rather than guilt.  Not feelings as though God is convicting me but feeling the shame the culture put on the issues that I have faced.  It has also been my experience that many Christians with false humility have tried to disqualify me for the prize based on their own pretense of sinlessness.     Earlier I asked how many of us have sinned this week/ or today… How many of you raised your hands because that is what Christians are supposed to do?  I imagine some of you cannot identify a “sin” that you have committed?  This week? Today?  You do not have to raise your hand but I know you are out there; probably many of you.  How do I know this?   I used to be sinless…. in my own mind. Oh sure I knew I was a “sinner”…. but by the Grace of God I was no longer sinning.  I went weeks/ months/ years without sinning and feeling more self righteous by the second.  And, I told many sinners they were going to hell for their sins if they did not stop right now! I was one of the people Paul is warning you about in this passage.  Oh yes there are many of us out there.  And the longer you stay in that position the harder you fall; at least in the eyes of yourself and the people around you.  God already knew you were still sinning and he loved you anyway.  Many of the people around you see your self- righteousness as well.  Sometimes that keeps them away from God and the church instead of drawing them closer.  They think things like…. If that is Christianity I don’t want any part of it.   Who died and made her God?  Who does she think she is talking to me like that?   She is too “Godly” for me to be around/ pray with/ study with, etc.  False humility = idolatry.   We worship ourselves… the created rather than the creator. 
Again Paul warns us against legalism. V20-23
“Since you died with Christ to the basic principles of this world, why as though you still belonged to it, do you submit to its rules:  Do not handle! Do not taste! Do not touch!  These things are all destined to perish with use, because they are based on human commands and teachings.  Such regulations indeed have an appearance of wisdom with their self-imposed worship, their false humility and their harsh treatment of the body, but they lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence.”
Paul’s words are harsh here he says, they have an appearance of wisdom but lack value.  Legalism, false humility, following all the rules definitely has the appearance of wisdom.  People can see what good Christians we are when we follow all the rules.   I am not saying that rules are bad.  What I am saying and what I believe Paul is tryting to get across is this: following the rules for the sake of saving face does nothing for the heart.  He also wants us to be aware  that mans laws are perishable.  That they change with the times, that even sometimes our interpretation of the Bible changes over time.  He wants us to keep our eyes focused on Christ who is as it says in vs. 17, the true reality.  Christ changes our hearts, not laws and behavior and that is what He wants, our heart, our true self.
When we think of rebellion we don't usually associate it with being Godly or not.  But here I believe that Paul is telling us to rebel, rebel against anything except Jesus and the message of the Gospel.   We are to have faith-filled rebellion against legalism, worldly philosophies, and false humility.  We are to question the things we are being taught and test them through Jesus not through the basic principles of this world.  Faith-filled rebellion means being real, it means rebelling against the idea that the church is to be filled with perfect, non-sinning people.  It means rebelling against satan and the idea that we are unworthy to work for God based on our perceived sin status.  God can work through everyone and does.  Remember the man in the video?  He broke free, took off his mask.  He was considered a rebel, the faceless people ran after him trying to bring him back in alignment, to put his mask back on.  He knew he was on the right path so he continued through the pain of rejection, through the persistent taunting, pleading, and condemnation of the people around him.  At first he forced people to take their masks off too, but in the end people saw his freedom and wanted it for themselves….  His rebellion started a revolution.   Faith- filled rebellion will bring about a revolution for Christ.  It will bring us back to the truth of the Gospel…
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It is my hopes that reading this will give you one of two things... 
Understanding that you are living a faceless and false life and it is time to take off your mask and get real
The knowledge that the faceless people who have been chasing you or who have abandoned you because you don't fit in are indeed in the same boat you are... they have something in their life that they are covering with their mask and they are under the false impression that they can discard it by pretending.
Either way the search for happiness ends when you can accept who you are and not be ashamed of it based on other peoples views and philosophies....
I am not saying you have to shout it to the world no matter which you suffer from because we always want to be considerate of others but I believe inner peace is what everyone is striving for in life; When we are pretending that is something we do not have.... That is the alarm system that has been installed in us from birth

Sunday, October 9, 2011

Faith Filled Rebellion 3

If you are new to this blog this is a piece i wrote in 2009... There is one more in this series... so read the last two and come back for the last one....  All Biblical references are from the NIV.
How can I work for God when I have this in my life?  Whether it is sin or just something socially unacceptable you feel unworthy.  That feeling of unworthiness keeps us bound and not spreading the gospel.  The truth my friends, will set you free.  When you are no longer living in fear you are free to live for Christ as YOU.  Not as the person you want everyone to see you as, not as who you are expected to be…. YOU!  The you that God made.   As Episcopal Priest,  Elizabeth Canham once said: “There is no freedom like seeing myself as I am and not losing heart.  Or as Popeye once said “I am what I am and that’s all that I am” 
These feelings are universal and timeless, in Colossians Paul’s writes about this very issue let’s start in chapter 1 in verse 21 -
“Once you were alienated from God and were enemies in your minds because of your evil behavior.  But now he has reconciled you by Christ’s physical body through death to present you holy in his sight, without blemish and free from accusation – if you continue in your faith established and firm, not moved from the hope held out in the gospel.”
 Paul is reminding the Colossians that the faith they had established was the Gospel message, Jesus had died, was buried, on the third day he rose again, and he would return to take them with Him.  It was not the book of the law (they only had the old testament at this time)… and all gazillion laws written in it; simply faith in Jesus as their savior, redeemer, and Lord.   He says you were alienated in your “minds” because of your evil behavior.  They must have been feeling somewhat unworthy, like their sin and past lives were too unbearable or I don’t think Paul would have addressed it like this.  He told them just how God sees them now that they are reconciled by Jesus, not the world or what their minds were telling them. 
Christians were considered rebels at this time. 
The world was telling them they were wrong but Jesus was telling them they were holy and without blemish, free from accusation.  This does not mean they were free from sin or sinless… it meant they believed in Jesus and that was enough.
Later on in the letter to the Colossians he addresses the fact that there were false prophets, and many worldly traditions that men wanted them to follow.    Lets pick up in Colossians 2:6
Ch 2 vs 6-8
“So then just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.  See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the basic principles of this world rather than on Christ.
Again, Paul is warning them against looking to the world for their standards.  He warns them to not become a prisoner to the worlds philosophy but instead listen to Christ and depend on him.  These worldly philosophies are as common in today’s western culture as they were nearly 2000 years ago when this book was written.  Many of us never question things that are taught to us.   We take what is told to us in school, on tv, and in church as truth when many times there are multiple sides to the story and we are only hearing parts or even falsehoods.  Paul is warning us not to do this.  He is encouraging us to question what we are taught.  He is telling us to use the strength given us and hold to the truth of the Gospel of Jesus.  That truth being that Jesus died, was buried, and on the third day resurrected all to bring us into relationship with God; to cover our sins.
 V 9-15
“For in Christ all fullness of the Deity lives in bodily form, and you have been given fullness in Christ who is the head over every power and authority.  In him you were also circumcised, in the putting off of the sinful nature, not with the circumcision done by the hands of men but with the circumcision done by Christ, having been buried with him in baptism and raised with him through your faith in the power of God who raised Him from the dead.
When you were dead in your sins and in the uncircumcision of your sinful nature, God made you alive with Christ.  He forgave us all our sins, having canceled the written code with its regulations, that was against us and that stood opposed to us; he took it away, nailing it to the cross.  And having disarmed the powers and authorities, he made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross.”
Jesus died and took all our sins away.  We were unclean, uncircumcised and he bought us with that huge price; His life.   He did not say get clean first or now never sin again or even try to be good.  No he took all our sins, past, present, and future and threw them to the bottom of the ocean.  He reconciled us to himself once for all times.  And we have been given the fullness of Christ.  The same power that raised Christ from the dead is in us.  We are more than worthy to work for God no matter our “sin” state.
Paul again warns us against listening to culture… vs.16 -17
“Therefore do not let anyone judge you by what you eat or drink, or with regard to a religious festival, a New Moon celebration or a Sabbath day.  These are a shadow of the things that were to come; the reality, however, is found in Christ.”
The culture of this time put much emphasis on tradition and ritual.  Our western culture does as well.   Although many of us say that we do not hold to tradition or ritual when we find ourselves in a different type of church it is odd and hard to worship.  I recently changed churches.  I had come from a contemporary, small town church, with a loud band and a particular order to service on which you could count each week.  While church hunting I went to many different churches but was drawn to look for a church with a similar structure as the previous.  You can imagine my surprise when I felt like God was calling me to attend a church that sang two songs, one at the beginning and one at the end of service, from a hymnal that I am very unfamiliar with, and a much different order of service than I was used to.   It was uncomfortable.  I realized at that time that part of my experience in church was based on tradition and culture.  I was tempted to say, well that church isn’t for me because it doesn’t have what I need.  It does this or it doesn’t do that… but I listened to God and he said… That is where I want you.
The man in the video clip (posted in part 2) was charged with treason for removing his mask.  Much the same happens with us when we decide to “rebel” against the tradition.  We are looked upon with accusing eyes, there are snickers  behind our backs.  We feel more and more unworthy because we are not accepted by the whole, the majority. How many of us are afraid to lift our hands in worship until we peek out to see if anyone else is lifting theirs?  Someone had to lift first, someone had to rebel against all those who were not lifting their hands.  It is much the same when we reveal our lives to each other and become real, take off our mask, we are in defiance to the traditions of this world and we are judged, but it is somewhat of a chain reaction.  One person has to start the revolution.

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Faith Filled Rebellion 2



 In this video the man takes off his mask…. he becomes real and is considered the rebel. 
Was he rebelling against God?  No he was rebelling against the “norm” or status quo.  He had have to have faith in something to take his mask off?
Does God ask us all to be faceless people? Does he ask us to be all alike?
Do WE expect everyone to be like us? Or at least to conform to the “rules”?
If someone does not conform do we chase after them with our own standards and rules until they do? And if they don’t give up do we have a stand off with them… thinking “My way is better than yours… you are an outsider now”.  Leave them for dead... or at least as going to hell....
This feeling of division or separation that we feel because of “sin” has more to do with what the world (or our peer group) says to us about sin than the fact that we sinned.  We get guilty feelings about things we ourselves don’t consider sin because our world calls it bad.  When we do something that is perceived as sin our family and friends are there to chase us down like they did the man in the video and make us conform, to put our mask back on without ever asking where we are with God. They base their judgment on their standards of sin and disobedience.   Don’t get me wrong here.  We all sin.   We are all sinners.    And we are to try to help our brothers and sisters out of sin, but we must be careful about condemning and judging them or placing our version of right and wrong on them.
When we finally get the courage to be who we are there are plenty of people there to judge us.  To make us feel as though we have let God down… whether it is a piercing, a tattoo, having a drink, who we choose to love…and make us feel unworthy. Like we have to hide or put our mask back on and pretend.
 Are we listening to the world or the Word?  Is there scripture to back up that feeling of unworthiness?  Or the feeling God doesn’t like us anymore?    I went in search of the verses that we all seem to know but can’t quit remember their address.   This is what I found.
I did a quick search in the NIV concordance there are around 125 verses on sin: 
57 of the verses talk about God’s Forgiveness….his atonement…. In other words His taking our sins away with no conditions or obligation.  Not his condemnation or shunning us for our sin.  In fact Romans 8:1 says “ Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death.”
I found 54 verses acknowledge that sin is….. Crouching at our door and that we don’t get what we deserve when it comes to sin, that sin without faith leads to death.
            7 on Jesus sinless state
            3 that we should confess our sins
God knows everything  He knows we are all have secrets in our lives and even tells us that we should not deny that:  (1 John 1:8) “If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us.”    
“You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless (over sin), Christ died for the ungodly   Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous man, though for a good man someone might possibly dare to die.  But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us  
Since we have now been justified by his blood how much more shall we be saved from God’s wrath through him!” Romans 5:6-9
This passage is quite clear… we don’t have to be perfect when we come to Christ and we will never be perfect while we are in Christ.  
Our world uses our circumstances, actions, words, inaction, etc  to keep us tied down, bound,  ineffective for God based on their standards.  We start to believe our “sin” is proof that we are not worthy, as a reminder of how low we are and how “Godly” everyone else is, you know they don’t sin. J   You see, the truth is  all of us have at least one thing that we are hiding.  One “sin” or part of our life that we believe, if anyone else knew about, would disqualify us as worthy people let alone faith filled people.  It would ruin our testimony.   We are unwilling to share it with anyone so we are tied down with fear…. Fear of someone finding out, fear of being called out on it.  Fear….  
I believe that living in fear and pretending it isn’t there, hiding it…. disqualifies us more than everyone knowing.  The secrets that we keep separate us from God.  If we don’t acknowledge it to Him we think He won’t know.  It keeps us separated and feeling unworthy and isolated from God and people.  We pretend no one else has a secret like ours.  We pretend that we are the only one struggling with something. We pretend that no one knows.  We pretend, we pretend, we pretend…. pretending keeps us isolated. 
Alone