More on Revenge

It has been a while since my last post but life issues sometimes take precedence and when you have teenagers there seems to be life issues…. Some of the things going on are far to sensitive to talk about at this point in time but stay tuned…

My last post spoke of hurt…. Revenge… vulnerability…. These seem to be some of life’s constants.  Really it is what we do with them that counts.  We are not responsible for what others do or say but we are responsible for ourselves.  We can take the things people do and feel like a victim or we can stand up and see the truth of the matter.

My personality is, like many others, very sensitive.  I have a low self esteem; I often feel less than others, I wonder why anyone would like me.  I often take what people say personally even if they are not speaking of me. (That comes from years of dealing with passive aggressive people… you know the ones who try to make a point or be mean by using examples)  I have learned to deal with that insecurity by knowing the truth.  It has taken a long time for me to learn the truth about myself because I always believed what others said or what I thought they were trying to say. 

In truth, when people are being mean and hurtful, seeking revenge, they are saying more about what kind of person they are; Very unhappy, vulnerable people, trying to make themselves feel better by hurting another. 

  

We have all been hurt and we have all hurt others, it makes us who we are today. 

If you are seeking revenge I beg you to see that you are just perpetuating hurt not healing.  Stop and look at the hurt within and learn from it.  Move on.  Forgiveness is much more freeing than revenge.

 If you are the victim of revenge, know that the person is acting out of hurt, wanting you to hurt as much as they do…..don’t be a victim… know the truth.

“Bless your enemies; no cursing under your breath. Laugh with your happy friends when they're happy; share tears when they're down. Get along with each other; don't be stuck-up. Make friends with nobodies; don't be the great somebody.

 Don't hit back; discover beauty in everyone. If you've got it in you, get along with everybody. Don't insist on getting even; that's not for you to do. "I'll do the judging," says God. "I'll take care of it."

Our Scriptures tell us that if you see your enemy hungry, go buy that person lunch, or if he's thirsty, get him a drink. Your generosity will surprise him with goodness. Don't let evil get the best of you; get the best of evil by doing good”.  The message 14-21